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The Art of Gift Giving- How to decide on the perfect gift for your loved one!

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Is there an art to gift giving? How do YOU decide what to give to a loved one?

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We give gifts as a form of appreciation, to a person that we care for on a special occasion.

 

Be it for a religious holiday (Christmas, Eid), a birthday, a graduation, a marriage, a baby shower, any significant achievement- or even for the pure sake of appreciating someone and showing them your love- gift giving is a part of our everyday lives, whether we like it or not.

 

Gift giving is for sure, a way to create bonds, to enhance relationships, and to build  bridges between people in ways it is not often built without gifts.

 

Interestingly, I used to think that if a person loves you more for giving them gifts, then they seem to be materialistic, and focused on material gains and things rather than relationships.

 

The truth is, that for gift-giving to truly build bonds and add meaning to relationships, the very fact of giving a gift or the monetary amount of the gift does not matter as much as what gift you give.

 

In essence, it is actually the intention that counts, and what the gift means to a person.

 

There is an art to gift giving that can build your relationships and increase love and affection between the giver and the receiver, be it for a family member, a friend, or partner.

 

As a part of our society and culture, we are almost accustomed to giving gifts to the point that it is a part of our everyday lives, occasions come left and right and we are bombarded with opportunities to give and receive gifts.

 

How then, do we give gifts that actually build relationships and mean something, so much so that we go beyond the actual ritual of gift giving.

 

What is the art of gift giving?- you may ask.

 

There are just a few, simple rules to keep in mind when considering to give an artful, meaningful gift. Follow these tips, and you will never give a meaningless, useless, boring gift ever again!

 

  • Make Note of Likes, Wants, Wish Lists

 

This is by far the easiest way to try and get a gift for a loved one. When you are close to a person, it is natural to overhear them voice their desires, whetehr it is something they have wanted for a long time or have been shopping for, or even just a certain type of thing or themed item that they love.

 

Rather than letting it slip out of the other ear, keep these things in mind so that you have a wide range of gift possibilities for the next occasion!

 

 

  • Make something personal

 

This is one of my favorites. To give a gift is to give something that means something to both the giver and the receiver. You don’t have to be particularly artsy, but making something that means something will always build a stronger bond.

 

Personalize anything you can find. Maybe make a jar with motivational sayings or quotes for each day of the year. Or give a list of coupons that your loved one can redeem on your behalf, such as chores or massages. Put your loved one’s favorite quote on a frame, make them something personalized with their name if you are indeed the artsy type.

 

The possibilities are endless!

 

 

  • Plan a trip!

 

Sometimes, a surprise trip to someplace that your loved one has always wanted to visit is the best gift you can give! Especially for your partner, taking them on a getaway (when you know they are free of course!) is one of the best gifts you can give- the gift of experience and adventure!

 

Make sure to take note of places your loved one enjoys visiting, or would like to visit- so you can take them there!

 

 

  • Take them out for dinner, or make one at home at candlelight!

 

You can also take note of the foods your loved one enjoys the most. Take them out to that restaurant as a surprise, bring in takeout, or make the food you know they will love and have a candlelight dinner!

 

Whatever you do, make sure it is something that they enjoy. If you know they enjoy sitting under the stars, set up a blanket outside at night with a picnic of their favorite goodies!

 

  • Throw a surprise party with all of your loved ones!

 

Another surefire way to make a person feel loved and special is to throw them a surprise party. Even without going to extremes and spending lots of money, just inviting the people your loved one loves most- family, friends- the surprise and effort you put in to plan such a thing for them will make them happier than any gift will.

 

 

In the end, the true art of gift giving lies in the intention, and in the thought and planning of it- and sometimes, in the execution of it.

 

By taking note of the things and places and foods that your loved one loves the most, you can certainly make whatever occasion you are buying them a gift for, worth the effort!

 

Giving gifts needs to be more than the ritual of spending money. The thought is what counts, and it is the thought and emotion that embodies the process and action of gift giving that makes it so special.

 

So special, that once you master the art of gift giving, your relationships with your loved ones will grow and prosper with more appreciation, closeness and love!

 

What will YOU give your loved one as a gift in the next upcoming occasion?

 

 

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Ever feel like the generation between your parents’ and yours is too wide to bridge? Read for some outright comparisons that should tickle your ponder-bones!

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Ever feel like the generation between your parents’ and yours is too wide to bridge? Read for some outright comparisons that should tickle your ponder-bones!

 

It is totally inevitable that almost every generation feels the strains and differences from the upbringing, expectations, and standards of the generation before them.  Your parents and elders seem to have a certain expectation of how you should grow up. You, on the other hand, feel that times are different now, and you need to be brought up with the time.

 

Sometimes, the generation gap feels all too real.

 

Does your parents’ generation and your generation feel as different as apples and oranges? Here are some stark oppositions to shed some light to the situation! It’s worth thinking about.

 

 

  • Parents vs. You

Here is the basic ultimate battle. No matter what, the laws of science dictate that your parents will always be a generation or two above you, no questions asked. The battle starts here, knowing that you actually ARE two different generations.

 

 

  • Conservative vs. Liberal

Isn’t it odd that the world- the more modern it becomes- the more libreral-er it is getting? From humble beginnings to egotistical end? That’s not a good sign. Or is it? Can it work the other way around? I’m pretty sure there are many ways to draw the line between the two!

 

 

  • Mature vs. Immature

Pfft, come on mom and dad. Of COURSE you are more mature than we are! You ARE older than us after all! Oh…do you mean at our age? Is 30 the new 20? …Sorry? But you can be the mature ones!

 

 

  • Curfew vs. Partying All Night

For some reason, happy lives were always linked to chastity…? Staying late doesn’t do much, it makes us feel YOUNGER in comparison to just how OLD mom and dad feel! Don’t you dare bring up rape. Or abduction. Or any other scary things that happen at 3 am after a drunk party. Carpe Diem, mom! Sieze the day! You only live once!

 

 

  • Selflessness vs. Selfishness

This can definitely be flipped sideways. A generation of so-called selfless people was pretty racist before some of the more recent flows of immigrants. But today? Seeing people stand up for other’s rights who are a different color than you? That must be driving you old-timers bonkers!

 

 

  • Healthy Food vs. GMO, Artifical Sugar, High Fructose Corn Syrup, Red Dye….

The list really does go on and on doesn’t it? This is something we can’t seem to beat, except that the trash actually tastes good, feels good, and keeps us coming back for more! There is nothing like addiction to keep an economy running! The Earth’s economy is at an all time low, they don’t seem to be getting business from the whole-ness and fill your stomach in one shot plot!

 

 

  • Focused vs. Unfocused

They worked hard, worked double or triple shifts, studied, went to classes, fought for a career when they didn’t have the money. What are we doing? Loaning the rest of our lives away for some party filled nights and high-class dorms. Living the life until we have to pay!

 

 

  • Nature vs. Technology

Sure, they saw the dawn of technology, but we are seeing the death of nature as we speak! Its not like the glaciers in Antarctica are important for our survival, neither are trees! We can live without oxygen, the next iPhone claims to provide it! Live, Love, Machines. Kill Trees.

 

 

  • Monogamous vs. Polyamorous

We seem to love everything these days, whatever makes our hearts beat a little faster. Forget the same gender, we are talking inanimate objects here! But who are we to judge? It’s not like we have the natural human race to continue or need a family to tie us down, we are a generation of free and appropriated love!

 

 

The generation gap is really, all too real. Can identifying only a small handful of the differences really help? That, my friends, is the unanswerable question!

 

Jokes aside, either side can be attributed with either sentiments- we are all victim to our subjectivities! How true it felt to you can say a lot about you and the particular generation before you!

 

It is a big wide world, and every Joe is not Shmoe! That is to say, everyone is different!

 

Take the information and do with it what you may- you may find it to ease relations and better yet, compromise between the two!

 

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Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!

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Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!

 

There are a lot of times- and a lot of reasons- when we find it difficult to apologize for our mistakes. Whether it’s ego, pride, or extreme guilt, we swallow our sorry’s and hope the other person will forgive us without us asking.

 

The thing is, that unless we apologize, the person whose feelings we hurt or offended is not very likely to know that we were sorry, let alone forgive us instantaneously!

 

So are you dealing with guilt and know that you need to say sorry, but don’t know how to?

 

 Here are some genuine ways to apologize to any person for any mistake!

 

  • Understand the other person’s emotions- put yourself in their shoes!

This might be a no-brainer because in order to even want to read this article you have a substantial amount of understanding to fuel your apology and guilt. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you hurt, understand where they are coming from and how you may have felt in that situation. If you would have felt differently, try to understand it from their perspective. This will help make not only the way you sound when you apologize genuine, but also how you feel as well! Intentions count!

 

 

  • Make yourself understand why what you did or said was wrong or hurtful!

This is very strongly connected to the idea of sympathy and empathy. Taking a step back from the other person’s emotions, understand what may have been wrong with what you said or did. Even if there is not much wrong to it, make yourself understand that doing something to hurt another person’s feelings is also immoral! Understanding why something is wrong makes sure you apologize in a genuine way, and brings out your moral insight!

 

 

  • Rehearse!

Getting the pre-game jitters! Try rehearsing your emotions and understanding in words that would be helpful. Practice on another friend or family member for good measure! If it is important for your own mental sanity to apologize properly, make sure you have at least one mental rehearsal down to make sure you cover all bases and apologize in a genuine way!

 

 

  • Speak from your heart!

If you are truly feeling guilty and remorseful, being genuine and speaking from your heart when you apologize will not be a difficult thing to do! Speak what you feel and show your remorse. Sometimes the pain of the person inflicting pain is worse than the one with the pain- show that you feel what they felt and more! To apologize in a genuine way is to speak from your heart!

 

 

  • Be confident and humble

Yes these sound quite paradoxical, but it is true that in apology, confidence and humility go hand in hand. Be confident and genuine- don’t forget the other person’s emotions, but don’t be afraid to speak from your heart. Ironically, guilt is nothing to be ashamed of! Also remember to be humble. You are expressing your guilt, not a success. Know you wronged the other person and use that and keep your head down low.

 

 

Us human beings are definitely not perfect, and we make mistakes that are sometimes painful to others, and that directly hurt those around us. Sometimes, even those that we love.

 

 

If you truly feel guilty for something you did wrong, following these 5 GENUINE ways to apologize for your mistakes will successfully help you to not only plan and execute your apology, but do it from your heart and come to terms with your guilt as well!

 

 

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