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5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!

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5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!

 

There are a lot of times- and a lot of reasons- when we find it difficult to apologize for our mistakes. Whether it’s ego, pride, or extreme guilt, we swallow our sorry’s and hope the other person will forgive us without us asking.

 

The thing is, that unless we apologize, the person whose feelings we hurt or offended is not very likely to know that we were sorry, let alone forgive us instantaneously!

 

So are you dealing with guilt and know that you need to say sorry, but don’t know how to?

 

 Here are some genuine ways to apologize to any person for any mistake!

 

  • Understand the other person’s emotions- put yourself in their shoes!

This might be a no-brainer because in order to even want to read this article you have a substantial amount of understanding to fuel your apology and guilt. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you hurt, understand where they are coming from and how you may have felt in that situation. If you would have felt differently, try to understand it from their perspective. This will help make not only the way you sound when you apologize genuine, but also how you feel as well! Intentions count!

 

 

  • Make yourself understand why what you did or said was wrong or hurtful!

This is very strongly connected to the idea of sympathy and empathy. Taking a step back from the other person’s emotions, understand what may have been wrong with what you said or did. Even if there is not much wrong to it, make yourself understand that doing something to hurt another person’s feelings is also immoral! Understanding why something is wrong makes sure you apologize in a genuine way, and brings out your moral insight!

 

 

  • Rehearse!

Getting the pre-game jitters! Try rehearsing your emotions and understanding in words that would be helpful. Practice on another friend or family member for good measure! If it is important for your own mental sanity to apologize properly, make sure you have at least one mental rehearsal down to make sure you cover all bases and apologize in a genuine way!

 

 

  • Speak from your heart!

If you are truly feeling guilty and remorseful, being genuine and speaking from your heart when you apologize will not be a difficult thing to do! Speak what you feel and show your remorse. Sometimes the pain of the person inflicting pain is worse than the one with the pain- show that you feel what they felt and more! To apologize in a genuine way is to speak from your heart!

 

 

  • Be confident and humble

Yes these sound quite paradoxical, but it is true that in apology, confidence and humility go hand in hand. Be confident and genuine- don’t forget the other person’s emotions, but don’t be afraid to speak from your heart. Ironically, guilt is nothing to be ashamed of! Also remember to be humble. You are expressing your guilt, not a success. Know you wronged the other person and use that and keep your head down low.

 

 

Us human beings are definitely not perfect, and we make mistakes that are sometimes painful to others, and that directly hurt those around us. Sometimes, even those that we love.

 

 

If you truly feel guilty for something you did wrong, following these 5 GENUINE ways to apologize for your mistakes will successfully help you to not only plan and execute your apology, but do it from your heart and come to terms with your guilt as well!

 

 

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Control Anger

Do you have regular trouble controlling your anger? Read this article for UNIQUE and PRACTICAL practices that ACTUALLY work to help you control your anger!

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5 Unique and PRACTICAL Practices To Control Anger that ACTUALLY work!

Control Anger

Do you have regular trouble controlling your anger? Read this article for UNIQUE and PRACTICAL practices that ACTUALLY work to help you control your anger!

 

Anger is just one of those emotions that we feel all of a sudden and can never control. It sometimes seems as though there are no unique or practical ways to control our anger- or at least no practice that actually work.

 

 

When we are angry, we are in a sort of mania that we can barely get out of. But once we recover, the guilt is more than we can bear.

 

 

There are hundreds of ways out there to prevent anger or to deal with anger and channel it. Sometimes, these ways turn out to be too difficult and sometimes impossible to bring into action, just because of how uncontrollable our anger is.

 

 

So, are there any easy ways to PRACTICALLY control your anger on a daily basis?

 

 

The answer is simple:

 

 

Even though there are hundreds of basic practices out there to get a hold on your anger, there are quite a few unique and practical ways to control your anger that can work on a daily basis.

 

 

So, if you are tired of the endless impractical advices everyone give you to prevent and channel your anger, here are a few unique and practical ways to control your anger that ACTUALLY work!

 

 

 

  • Drink Water

Anger is known as a hot-headed emotion. There is a reason why drinking water can literally cool you down- both physically and mentally! Drink a glass of water slowly, you will feel your anger melt out of you!

 

 

  • Change your position!

Sometimes the simplest thing you can do is to change your position. If you are in a mental state while standing or sitting or lying down, the anger will stay with you while you are in that state. If you are standing, sit down. If you are sitting, lay down. If you are laying down, sit up. Changing your position can help to change your emotions, as physical situations impact your mental state and its continuance a great deal!

 

 

  • Take deep breaths and count to 10

This may not be as unique, but it is certainly practically. Taking deep breaths can slow down the quick and fast emotions associated with anger. You can think with a clearer head and face whatever it is that made you angry with a better outlook once you slow your heart rate. Focus on your breathing, and count to 10 or 20 or even 30- whatever works for you! Your mind and heart will thank you!

 

 

  • Remove yourself from the situation

Similar to changing your position, removing yourself from a situation when you are angry to the point of no return is helpful in redirecting your attention and allowing you a new outlook! Remove yourself from the situation and you can definitely face it with a clearer head once you are calm!

 

 

  • Channel your anger in privacy through whatever works!

Sometimes there are things that make us so angry that we can’t quite calm ourselves down, no matter what we practice in controlling it. In these situations, the best thing you can do is express your anger and channel it through another action when in private so you do not have to face any guilt after the anger is out of your system and you are ready to deal with the situation with a clearer head! Scream at the trees, punch a pillow, rip some paper, throw a ball at the wall- do whatever works for you to get that initial anger out of you!

Anger is definitely one of those emotions that make us irrational when it first attacks, and it sometimes is impossible to deal with it practically.

 

 

If you practice these unique and practical techniques the minute you feel the onset of an anger reaction, you will surely face less remorse and have to deal with less apologies later!

 

Your emotions will thank you!

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Eliminating Bad Habits

Have bad habits you can’t stand? Something CAN be done to make ALL your bad habits disappear! Find out the SECRET to eliminating your bad habits once and for all!

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Eliminating Bad Habits

The SECRET To Eliminating Bad Habits!

 

We all have a number of bad habits in our lives that we would like to get rid of. The problem is, that’s why bad habits actually exist-because they are so impossible to get away from!

 

Almost every person alive has experienced the disdain and regret after doing any action that eventually became a bad habit- whether it is eating more chocolate than we need to or whining a little too much.

 

Can anything be done to make our bad habits disappear for good?

 

The good news: there is a secret to eliminating bad habits and this secret is held up by a few simple aspects that, once we understand, we can easily target every bad habit and eliminate them at the source!

 

Here are a few key steps to get started on the road to eliminating bad habits:

 

 

  • Identify and Understand the Bad Habit- and Why it is BAD

To successfully start on the path to stopping a bad habit, you must first identify what a bad habit is. Sometimes, we are so busy in our own lives that we don’t even realize a habit of ours is bad or detrimental! Gain advice from someone close to you who can point it out to you. Once you identify it, understand what it is, and why it is bad- all the more to motivate you to get rid of it for good!

 

 

  • Set up a Reward/Punishment System

As much as this sounds like Psychology 101 all over again, there is a reason that operant conditioning is so popular in experimentation! Human nature in particular is highly dependent on reinforcing mechanisms that make sure we stick to, or stay away from things that we are meant to stick to or stay away from! Set up a reward and punishment system for yourself- you will no doubt find ways to motivate yourself towards good habits, and away from the bad ones!

 

 

  • Find a Replacement Habit

Alas, even once a bad habit is eliminated, it is very easy to relapse into said habit. However, if you keep track of your routines and habits, and in turn find an alternate or almost opposite habit to replace the one you worked so hard to get rid of, you can make sure that the said bad habit stays away for good!

 

If you apply these key steps, there is no doubt you will be successful in eliminating bad habits for good!

 

To follow through with these steps in full force, you must always keep in mind the SECRET to eliminating all bad habits:

 

Bad habits cannot be eliminated without identifying, and targeting the CORE SOURCE! DON’T just force yourself to stop the habit. Learn where it is coming from, and work from there!

 

Follow through with the steps and the secret to eliminating bad habits, and no matter what habit you are facing or how you need to face it, there is no doubt that you can become a master in replacing bad habits with good ones!

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How to Win Every Argument You Will Ever Make

Win Every Argument

Finding yourself at a loss for thoughts when arguing? Read this article for FOOLPROOF hacks you can use to help you win EVERY argument you will ever make!

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Win Every Argument

Finding yourself at a loss for thoughts when arguing? Read this article for FOOLPROOF hacks you can use to help you win EVERY argument you will ever make!

 

 

It is a part of daily life, to argue and persuade others. Whether it be your parents to let you buy what you will, your wife to let you take the trip you desperately need to take, or your child to make them eat that damned broccoli- argument can go far beyond the courtroom and the collegiate essay.

 

However, just as common as arguments are, we often feel our words knotted, failing to give way through our tongues what our mind and heart wishes to say.

You know you are correct, but how can you prove it to your argumentator?

Before we come to why you never win that argument you so desperately make, let’s take a couple of steps back and discuss what argument is in the first place.

 

Argument- rhetoric in our more elevated sense of class- can be considered one of the most purposeful, decisive, and tactful use of language. In argument, we attempt to convince others of our point, we bring supports and claims with sufficient evidence to pull one person onto our side- and if not totally onto our side, to at least identify with what we say and why we say it- justifying any place of mind. Those with higher intellect choose to argue for the sake of discussion, if not truthfully to convince one to their own biases.

 

With argument having such a high place in daily life, we have lowered its standard to a negative thing- making every person always say to you, DO NOT ARGUE.

 

But- is arguing such a bad thing? Don’t we use argumentation and persuasion in every moment of life, even with ourselves when we barely find the courage (energy?) to wake up in the morning?

 

Perhaps, by changing the rhetoric or rhetoric, we can learn to argue for the right reasons and in all the right ways. By doing so, you can, in total truth, never lose a single argument in your entire life.

What’s more, we can then finally see argument and persuasion in the daily function that it has, without dooming it to the eternal infamy of negativity.

 

Get your child to do their homework, you say? Now that  is an intriguing argument!

 

Here are a few foolproof hacks to incorporate to your every argument, no matter how large or small in the scale of deemed importance. With these tips under your belt, you will no doubt emerge a true winner at the end of every argument you come across!

 

 

  • Keep an OPEN MIND

Remember that the person you are arguing with is not without a mind, and they will have support for their claims as well. Even if you are not so readily willing to accept defeat and believe they are correct, remember to keep your mind open to the possibilities. It will most definitely not be the end of the world if they do end up right! If they say something in return and you open your mind to it, you are very, very likely to find another hook on which to respond back to

 

 

  • PLAN mentally

Make sure you have your argument set out before you, in your mind or on paper. If you know what you will say and how, and even to the extent of how to respond to a response you expect (for the more weightier arguments), you will always be prepared and have a plan of attack.

 

 

  • Do not DEFEND or ATTACK

Not to confuse the meaning of the last word in the previous section- plan of attack does not mean to literally attack. Nothing can set off your argumentator worse or discredit your every claim no matter how fruitful it seems if you defend yourself with total emotion, or attack with anger. Attempting to keep as much emotional charge out of an argument as possible is the best way to reach the climactic hill of success.

 

 

  • LISTEN and RESPECT

Going hand in hand with keeping an open mind, listening is always key. Show the other person that you are willing to respect what they have to say and are willing to listen, and they will in turn listen to and give equal respect to what you have to say. Even if they do not (which is often the case, unfortunately), you will at the very peace feel at peace in your heart for not having been the wrong in your morale and manner.

 

 

  • Watch your TONE

This is definitely a subsection of listening and respecting others. Make sure your tone is in place, and emotions are in check. Speak calmly- but not controllingly in an impatient way. Speak emotionally, but not in a defensive or offensively charged way. Speak persuasively, not too sweet or not too sour. Make it sound like conversation, like something that is being discussed rather than fought over (hint: it is NOT an attack, but a parley).

 

 

  • Have substantive CLAIMS

There is almost no use in making an argument if you have no case! Make sure you think through what you have to support your argument as thoroughly (with at least a general heading and mental direction) so that you can easily fall back onto your basis and know what you are saying, and why you know you are right! Besides, we are scientific beings, and at times, logic and reason need to bring to light what emotions sometimes cannot comprehend or accept.

 

 

  • Use the mind and the heart TOGETHER

Although I established before to not use the heart as much, it is critical to remember that the heart is a powerful being and that we as human beings can almost never override our emotions by our logical reasoning. Philosophers have been driven man at this, with their logic sickening their pathos. For this reason, use both the heart and mind hand in hand, NOT interchangeable at opposite ends of the spectrum. Charge your argument with passion, your substantial claims with reasons that empathize with the other individual. Intermix the both in the most practical way possible depending on your situation!

 

 

  • Argue to bring understanding, not to CONVINCE

Underlying all these themes is the negative connotations that come with the notion of an argument. Quite contrary to popular belief- as mentioned before- argument is a key function in our daily lives, critical to the smallest of measures to the largest of decisions. If we only change our attitude and composure during arguments- showing your opposer that you are in fact not opposers but mutuals discussing mutual things, there will be a more common understanding and empathy on both sides, and will allow free-flowing consideration between either side! Both sides will learn to consider each other, and speak in the most relaxed manner possible- getting rid of all negative stereotypes!

 

To think we can use these techniques with our children when they refuse to eat their veggies! Nevertheless, it is always critical to remember that ground rules of respect and understanding are always key to every relationship- and the relationship between the arguers are more nuanced that the attack of persuasion.

 

In other less-mangled words- if you stick to these rules of thumb, you will almost never emerge from an argument without success! Success of an argument is based not on fully and entirely convincing the other person’s weaknesses and defeating them, conquering them to your side. Rather, success in an argument is laying out your claims with reason enough that make them tangible and accessible to the person you are presenting them to!

 

Follow these simple rules, and you are sure to win any argument you come across, no matter how big or small!

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