Self – the Existant the Assistant to your Existence Mon, 06 Aug 2018 10:44:53 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Self – the Existant 32 32 3 Ways to Encourage Reading in the Digital Age Thu, 12 Apr 2018 06:59:07 +0000 the Existant
3 Ways to Encourage Reading in the Digital Age

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Despite the discouragement of the technology in instilling reading habits, there are still many ways that reading can be encouraged in children- and even adults!

3 Ways to Encourage Reading in the Digital Age

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3 Ways to Encourage Reading in the Digital Age

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In the recent years, the shift from manual activities that take place face to face, to technologically- centered ways of life has most definitely benefitted humankind in many ways.


However, the most detrimental side effects of living in the digital age are its discouragement of reading. Throughout recent industrial history, the practice of reading is critical to career readiness, success, and intellectual capabilities and strength.


With this comes a threat to the futures of not only our own lives and skill but the lives of those of our future generations.


As impossible as it seems to battle with children and even our own selves to disconnect and force ourselves to read- there are still many ways to encourage and still habits of reading in children and adults alike.


  • Focus on Interests

Reading does not have to mean perusing texts that cause you or your child to snore. All people have topics and genres that intrigue them, interest them. By finding out what topics and genres are most captivating to either you or your child, it can be easier to encourage reading habits and make it a routine.


Besides, the point of reading is not only to practice readiness, but also to explore interests and learn new things.



  • Have Access to Variety- Using Technology!

With all the access to technology, why not take advantage of such tools for our benefit in this digital age? Reading does not always have to mean from a physical paperback text- it can be in any form.


Download a Kindle app, buy an e-reader, download variety of magazine or periodical apps to follow up and read daily. Some apps even come with reminders to read something every single day! Rather than allowing technology to become our downfall, we can take advantage of it and use it for our own good!



  • Find loved mentors and create relationships through texts

 This does not mean texts as in text messaging. Oftentimes, the best of friendships are rooted in a shared understanding and taste in texts- as in novels, articles, periodicals, genres.


For children, this can mean a mentor- an adult or teenager or someone they look up to who they can discuss readings with. For adults, this can mean being part of a book club where one reads and discusses what they have read with their fellow members and can even make new friends- or encourage reading alongside a good friend.




It is critical to remember the importance of reading high-quality texts- be it essays or novels or articles or even blogs- for not only our own lives but the lives of the future generations. Despite the difficulties faced in such practices, reading readiness is pertinent for our future generations.


These future generations- our children and their children- are the ones who will carry forth civilization and be the beacons of light that keep the world growing, surviving, and hopefully thriving, for generations to come.



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The End is Near? Scientists Predict 5 Terrifying Ways the World Will and May Just End. Thu, 01 Feb 2018 10:55:55 +0000 the Existant
The End is Near? Scientists Predict 5 Terrifying Ways the World Will and May Just End.

Ways the World Will and May Just End

We hear about the apocalypse in every religion- the end of the world and the start of the afterlife. The truth rings truer with scientists predicted causes of the world as we know it.

The End is Near? Scientists Predict 5 Terrifying Ways the World Will and May Just End.

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The End is Near? Scientists Predict 5 Terrifying Ways the World Will and May Just End.

Ways the World Will and May Just End


In almost every major world religion, it is believed with certainty that the world as we know it will one day come to an end.


However, skeptics have always arisen from science about the lack of plausibility in such a statement- words of unbelievers.


Contrary to the general belief of those who were against the theories and belief in the end of the world, scientists have actually begun to predict plausible causes for the end of the world- and these are only a few things that we see in the world on a daily basis ourselves.


  • Global Pandemic


Almost every year do millions get affected by a superbug virus that needs to be contained. It is only a matter of time before these viruses become stronger than it is possible for humans to battle- taking the rest of the world to their graves if we are not prepared. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 2 million people get sick from such superbugs each year- and with the increase in migration of populations to urban centers, the threat for an outbreak and widespread effect is even greater.


The World Health Organization keeps a close watch on superbugs to ensure that they are controlled, followed, and able to be battled even in stronger forms. If these bugs become resistant to antibiotics, they can truly end the world as we know it, and all humanity within it.



  • Climate Change


Just another one of the many things we as humans have done to make our own lives worse on Earth through our pollution, policies, and inability to plan for the long run for our future generations- is global warming and climate change.


Climate change has the potential to cause large scaled wildfires and a lack of proper humidity levels and adequate fresh water supply with water contamination, atmospheric contamination, and the melting of glaciers. The fact that glaciers are melting poses a greater threat than simple flooding and major coastal cities going Atlantis.


Concentrations of greenhouse gases in the atmosphere are more compacted and worse than ever after thousands of years- and at this rate of pollution it can only destruct life and cause mass extinctions across the planet.



  • Ecological Catastrophe



The permanent reduction of ecological resources is greatly impacting the planet’s ability to sustain life. This means that the rate at which humans are destroying and producing and consuming natural resources is increasing at an alarming a rate- a rate that cannot be reciprocated in the replenishing of such resources.


Ecological collapse is a scientifically quick and disastrous event. Each economic system that is thriving on buying and selling at rapid speeds is contributing to this end, whether they care or like it or not.



  • Global Systems Collapse



A global systems collapse can be classified as a collapse of economy and society as it is in place, and although this definition is broad, it encompasses the possibility of chaos and discord between powers. This can mean war, a combination of ecological collapse and the loss of natural resources, and the inability to function or run societal systems.


Other impacts under this umbrella include the collapse of power grids, economic crises where inflation is extremely high and buying power disappears and the stock market vanishes into uselessness.


This is also seen quite clearly in the direction in which the globally interconnected society is heading, as the gap between classes is widening and the economy is heading into pitfalls.


  • Nuclear War



Although the previous predictions of the fate of our planet are more eventual steps that we as the human race have been taking slowly but surely, one of the most abrupt and destructive ends- that does not seem all too far away with nuclear warheads at the hand of President Trump and North Korea’s Kim Jong Un.


Only small nuclear conflicts in the past have created severe crises in birthrates, diseases, birth defects, and loss of life and natural habitats in areas affected (Hint: Hiroshima and Nagasaki- Pearl Harbor). Yet on a larger scale, the number of nuclear warheads existing on the planet currently has the potential to wipe off every living thing from every corner of the planet, hundreds of times over.







We are watching the world snowball to its end right under our noses- but can we really do anything to stop it except prepare for our afterlife?


Perhaps it is one cause or another- but one thing is for certain. The rate in which each of these problems are increasing by the minute, it is only a matter of time before an amalgamation of each plausible cause for the end of the world will be the true end.




The End is Near? Scientists Predict 5 Terrifying Ways the World Will and May Just End.

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New Year, New You? 4 Ways to Set Attainable and Practical Goals for 2018 Sun, 07 Jan 2018 06:32:25 +0000 the Existant
New Year, New You? 4 Ways to Set Attainable and Practical Goals for 2018

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Have New Year’s resolutions you want to upkeep? Read for 4 ways to ensure you reach your goals practically!

New Year, New You? 4 Ways to Set Attainable and Practical Goals for 2018

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New Year, New You? 4 Ways to Set Attainable and Practical Goals for 2018

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Its that time of the year again. Every person is rushing to come up with a list of things that they need to make sure that the New Year comes off to a great start.


Be it resolving to start a new fitness regiment, or a new diet, or a goal to lose some weight, or personal goals in emotional or mental growth or improvement, or promises to oneself to complete something- the possibilities and contesting resolutions are endless.


The majority of the times, it seems almost as if we use the occasion of the New Year as the only time to set new goals for ourselves. Which, as a matter of fact, we end up chucking when it doesn’t seem to work- only to abandon any hope of new goals until the next year.


Whereas there is nothing wrong with setting goals and having new years resolutions- it is a great occasion to set your mind to dedicate yourself to an important goal to change your life for the next year- we tend to focus only on the goals, and not the means for ensuring those goals are reached, or rather their practicality.


The first step in achieving any goal is to set them practically. Here are 4 ways that you can ensure any goal that you make is attainable and practically dedicated to.



  1. Have a plan


No goal, no matter how specific or broad- can be attained without an action plan. Some people go with the advice of making your goal broad so that you may attain it at some point in the spectrum- while others like to say to make your goal specific, so guidelines in attaining that goal are simpler.


The best advice you can get is a good plan. No planning is ever enough



  1. Follow up and update along the way!



As awesome as plans are, it is never good to be too dependent on plans. Nothing ever goes exactly as planned, yet happen as they are meant to. That is the beauty of life. We are constantly changing- our circumstances, the things we want, the things we need, the situations we face, the people we become.


Yet, that doesn’t mean that you abandon those plans completely and throw our hands in the air without any hope for new goals until the new year- continuing the vicious cycle once again. Rather than throwing the baby out with the bathwater, the best approach is to repeatedly follow up on that plan based on your circumstances and your own self. Feel flexible enough to tweak your resolutions and plans along the way as you change and grow, so that it stays relevant!


Technology makes advancements much sooner than a year passes by- as human beings, we can only expect that we will be mentally updated and grown even sooner than that!



  1. Don’t be afraid to set resolutions mid-year, short-term, or longer term!




Hand in hand with the beauty of the New Year as being an awesome opportunity for resolutions and goal makings, comes the danger of thinking of this as the only time.


And in addition to this, comes the threat of changing, as we all know we will- not always at the strike of the New Year might I add- and causing our plans to be left in the dust. And thus another year passes without improvement or structured, planned change from within.


If we take a step back and think about the concept of a year, or days and months and weeks- it is interesting to note that before properly established civilization, there was no automatic assigned time through nature that each year starts. The timing of the year can be based on solar or lunar cycles, and more than one calendar exists in the planet. For the lunar calendar, the start of the year changes in relation to the solar Gregorian calendar that the world follows in general.


Taking this into mind, it can be said that every day is a new day and a new year, that each day can possibly be the start of the new year- and the new year that we celebrate is quite as arbitrary as the day one becomes sick or decides to go to the mall.


For this reason, we have to remember that no goal should be restricted by a year. Nor should we expect our goals to be completed within a year. Or that we can only have one goal per year. Or that we can’t start a goal midyear and end it after the new year. The list goes on and on.


Point being, set your resolutions any time, anywhere! There is no restriction to growth, and we should be free to pursue our dreams and dedicate ourselves to our own growth and development whenever passion strikes, with no restriction on arbitrary beginnings!



  1. Believe in yourself




Last but not least- and certainly the most important- is to remember to believe in yourself. You can never be a new you in a new year, or in a new month or new week or new day if you do not believe in yourself. Whatever goal you may be setting for yourself- be it small or medium or large, near sighted or far-reaching, short term or long term, you can never achieve it unless you believe you can.


Whatever you decide to resolve for the New Year, remember to resolve to believe in yourself before everything else. With such a belief at your belt, there is nothing to limit or stop you from achieving every plan and dream that may come along the way!



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The Perpetual Search for Purpose Thu, 14 Dec 2017 09:10:10 +0000 the Existant
The Perpetual Search for Purpose

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  Have you ever stopped yourself and asked- what is my purpose in life?   Quite interestingly, one of the most important- yet most overlooked and undervalued question of life is that of the search for a purpose.   The search for purpose is not something temporary- it is not the decision to take a […]

The Perpetual Search for Purpose

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The Perpetual Search for Purpose

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Have you ever stopped yourself and asked- what is my purpose in life?


Quite interestingly, one of the most important- yet most overlooked and undervalued question of life is that of the search for a purpose.


The search for purpose is not something temporary- it is not the decision to take a right or a left turn, it is not the decision of which path to take in a fork in the road- it is not the idea of choosing the path least taken.


The search for purpose is not always conscious. It is not always a single decision to decide that this is my purpose in life, this is the reason I am alive and in this world.


The search for purpose is perpetual, it is never-ending. The search for purpose is not a single fork in the road,- it is countless forks in countless roads taking us on a whirlwind spider web of a journey, navigating through the hills and mountains and valleys of this landscape called life.


Although some believe that lacking a purpose is possible- the fact of the matter is that we all have our purposes hidden within us. We are all bound on a path that is tailored specifically to us, that can be altered specifically by us, that is made for us and only us.


Each and every person’s path- no matter how intertwined it may be with another person, is unique in its highs and lows, twists and turns. Each and every person takes multiple detours and routes before they figure out what their true purpose is.


The times that we begin to feel we do not have a purpose is when we are lacking satisfaction in what we are doing- sometimes we do not know why we are doing what we are doing. We become tired of our routines- of endless nonstop working and spending and eating and sleeping. When things start to become a chore, and the joy of experience and the experience of joy seem to elude us- that is when our subconscious awakens this concept of purpose.


Each and every person has a purpose rooted deep within them, whether they know it or not. To realize this purpose, we must explore our actions day to day, explore the things we enjoy, the things that give our life meaning, that motivate us, that drives us forward.


A life’s purpose is what drives us forward, what gives our life meaning, what keeps us willing to wake up each day and do what needs to be done to make it to the next day. This means, always more than just being alive, more than just eating and sleeping- more than running our bodily functions and breathing.


Yet even when we seem to figure out our purpose in life, it seems to elude us once again. The search seems perpetual- to the extent that sometimes, we wish it could just stop.


Alas, life doesn’t work that way. Purpose is not a one-way street, it is not a final destination.


The search for purpose is perpetual not because it is elusive or unreachable, it is quite the opposite. Having goals, having a purpose is very easily attainable if we motivate ourselves in the correct manner- and the fact that makes the search for purpose perpetual is because after achieving any goal or realizing any purpose, we will always move on to a new goal to a new drive and motivation.


This is the purpose of life. To constantly find and search for a new purpose, for motivation and drives. To find things that speak to our soul. To find the words and mindsets and values that we can stick to when times are rough, in the rough patches of life that each and every person has to face- the toughest one being having to face what lies within us, who we are.


This life shot- as the overused statement tells us time and time again.


Life is short, and it will end before we know it. How we prepare for what comes in the eternal life after the end of this world, will determine a new type of purpose for us, one that provides a sense of peace, a sense of meaning and motivation that never changes as long as we live.


The only end to the perpetual search for purpose is setting our sights on what is eternal- in the afterlife.


This race for goals and pursuits and purpose will be perpetual if we think small and focus in this world.


So race and run, work hard and motivate yourself to work for what speaks to your heart. Find the things that give your heart peace, the people that make you feel at home, the routines that give your life meaning. Find a motto to live by, find a mantra that speaks to your soul.


It is time for the soul searching to begin.



The Perpetual Search for Purpose

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6 Telltale Warning Signs of a Person with Concealed Depression Tue, 12 Dec 2017 09:05:29 +0000 the Existant
6 Telltale Warning Signs of a Person with Concealed Depression

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  Depression is just one of those things that can seep into a person’s life without them realizing it. Most of the time, it is not too difficult to connect the dots and catch depression early and find ways to treat it- whether clinical help is needed or not.   Despite the fine line between […]

6 Telltale Warning Signs of a Person with Concealed Depression

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6 Telltale Warning Signs of a Person with Concealed Depression

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Depression is just one of those things that can seep into a person’s life without them realizing it. Most of the time, it is not too difficult to connect the dots and catch depression early and find ways to treat it- whether clinical help is needed or not.


Despite the fine line between simple sadness and depression, it is crucial to recognize the signs and take care of the issue at the core and understand the implications of the condition.


However, depression that is concealed is an entirely different ball game from straight out depression. People who are high functioning, multi-tasking, hard-working, and even seemingly motivated and passionate in whatever they are doing, tend to have concealed depression.


In concealed depression, a person either intentionally conceals their depression for the sake of focus and completing tasks and productivity, or subconsciously suppress their feelings of depression due to an innate desire to succeed and inherent anxieties about anxiety.


It is important to acknowledge a problem to reach a solution, rather than ignoring it and allowing it to exacerbate out of control. Depression- concealed or not- is no exception.


In all cases across the board, depression is not something that can be taken lightly or ignored. Whether inherently outright or concealed, depression must be taken seriously and proper steps must be taken to ensure that it is taken care of.


Some warning, telltale signs of concealed depression are…



  • Anxiety about anxiety

A person who conceals their depression, whether deliberately or not, almost always has a subconscious anxiety about having anxiety. Although anxiety and depression are two very different ballparks, the two enmesh when a person’s self-efficacy is marred by worries of one’s own emotions.


A person who is anxious about being anxious, focusing on the anxiety and other emotions they are feeling, will more than likely tend to suppress their depression because of how it feels for them to face the reality of that depression.



  • Abnormal sleeping and eating habits

It is quite clear that a person who is happy will sleep soundly and easily, and eat properly when hungry. A person who is depressed may eat or sleep more or less- but when there is an abnormal fluctuation between sleep times, amounts, and eating habits- it is through a subconscious anxiety of one’s emotions, and usually is a precursor to suppressing and concealing depression.



  • Unintentional social withdrawal

A person who is feeling depressed will naturally feel more reluctant to face people. When one is having difficulty facing their own emotions, it becomes increasingly more difficult to face others and interact with them.


Mustering the strength to interact with others, no matter how much of a social butterfly you might be, requires a level-headedness and a degree of peace and happiness.


Depression can prevent one from socially withdrawing. But unintentional social withdrawal almost always can be linked to a concealed depression. This is because the depressed person does not want to face the facts, or does not even realize their own depression at times, and will withdraw due to an inherent feeling that they can’t quite explain.



  • Feeling ostracized

A person who is dealing with concealed depression will feel more out of place, more ostracized than normal. Naturally, each and every person is unique and different and no two people are exactly alike in every way. In normal everyday interactions, a person who is confident and happy will not have a problem feeling confident in their own selves, and will not feel the need to compare themselves to others.


But when a person is concealing depression, it almost becomes this yardstick of comparison, that a person will feel like everyone is leaving them out, against them, or thinks of them as different. And as good as being unique and different is, concealed depression can lead one to think otherwise- and can lead one to be blinded to the beauties of each individual difference.



  • Desiring extra love and attention

An extension of feeling ostracized is an extra desire for love and attention. True, all human beings have an innate desire for love and affection.


But for those concealing depression, this desire becomes a stronger need and is manifested in many ways- from feeling ostracized, to when feeling more lonely than usual even at times when alone time is healthy, to feeling like no one loves them.



  • Subtle cries for help

All person in need of help give out signs that they need that help. Be it that they don’t show up to plans, or that they spend an entire day slouching around unable to do anything, or if they do not do what is asked of them on purpose or because of a lack of motivation to do so- there are always subtle telltale warning signs that points to a person’s concealed depression.


Because whether a person knows they are concealing their depression or not, a person with concealed depression will want help and ask for it, no matter how indirect or subconscious these cries may be.



6 Telltale Warning Signs of a Person with Concealed Depression

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How to Be Happy When Things Don’t Seem to Be Going Your Way Mon, 03 Jul 2017 12:17:51 +0000 the Existant
How to Be Happy When Things Don’t Seem to Be Going Your Way

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Happiness is all in the mind. How can you make yourself happy when things just don’t seem to be going your way?

How to Be Happy When Things Don’t Seem to Be Going Your Way

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How to Be Happy When Things Don’t Seem to Be Going Your Way

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Happiness is one of the most elusive states of mind in existence. When we are happy, we often don’t realize the extent or value of that happiness until it is gone.


In a way, we don’t know how much something means to us until we lose it- we do not realize the value of something until it is gone.


We feel the lack of happiness- the opposite of happiness- sadness, despair, anger, frustration, restlessness, depression- most when we believe that things are not going our way.


The truth is, I can’t give you a solution or pre-existing or even newly discovered formula for how to be happy. There is no set *way* to be happy.


Like I said, happiness is elusive.


And yet, happiness is in our own hands, our own minds.


The more romantic and idealistic of us try to depend on others for our happiness. Most of the time, people let us down and hurt our feelings. People we think we can trust- break our trust and let us down.


Other times, people who are there for us, people who loves us and whom we love back- rather than letting us down, even their presence is not enough to keep us smiling from the inside.

And this hurts us ourselves, because we want to be happy, we want our loved ones to think they are enough.


And the sad thing is, that the more we depend on anything outside of our own selves, the less handle we will have on our happiness.


It is a normal part of life for things to not go our way. There is always something or the other in our lives that are nto going perfectly. But isn’t that life?


Life is beautiful in its ups and downs, and the only way to truly be happy is to realize that with the hardship, with the difficulty and pain, there is ease.


Happiness is always paired with sadness. Like yin and yang, the sadness inside happiness, and the happiness inside sadness. It all coexists.


But instead of trying to be happy for others, or being happy situationally, we have to train our minds and our hearts to be at peace with our own selves and the situations we are in.


Things will never be perfect. Some days will be worse than others, and in the same way, some days better.


The happiness and sadness comes together. And like I said before- there is no forumula to being happy.


What is the real way to be happy when things don’t seem to be going your way?


My advice from personal experience and advice from a loved one-


The true way to happiness- the true way to be happy- lies within your own self, in your mind and self satisfaction.


You have to keep yourself at peace with yourself. Build your self esteem and confidence, work hard and make sure you are making progress.


If we use the excuse of lack of happiness to prevent us from moving forward, we will simply marinate in our unhappiness until idleness breeds more sadness.


We have to push ourselves to action- do things that make us happy, that make us feel productive, that make us feel like we are making progress.


And we have to be at peace with the fact that not everything will always go our way. The key to truly being happy no matter the situation is to understand this crucial fact.


No matter the situation, there will be ups and downs, goods and bads. IT is when we focus on the goods- when we are thankful- when we realize that our blessings are ALWAYS more than our weaknesses and lacks.


When we focus on the positives and focus on what IS working, what we DO have, our happiness level rises- we are content.


The next time you feel like things are not going your way- stop yourself right in your tracks.


Look at what IS going your way.


See the things that you DO have, rather than the things that you do not.


Once your satisfaction level rises, you can yourself, on your own, fix the things that are not going your way. Even the unfixable can be fixed with the right attitidue.


With the right attitude, you can be happy in any condition, any place.


As long as you are thankful, as long as you focus on what you have over what you do not- the haves will multiple and increase and be much, much more than your have-nots.



How to Be Happy When Things Don’t Seem to Be Going Your Way

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The Gift of Fasting Tue, 13 Jun 2017 17:57:00 +0000 the Existant
The Gift of Fasting


The month of Ramadan provides more than health benefits for those fasting- the true gift of fasting lies in what it contributes to the soul

The Gift of Fasting

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The Gift of Fasting



The month of Ramadan always comes highly anticipated for Muslims all around the world.


When people hear of fasting, the common ideal and understanding is that fasting means to abstain from particular habits, mainly eating, drinking, and all sexual activity.


However, what is less commonly focused on is the spiritual aspect of fasting.


It’s true, for sure- that there are countless health benefits to the month of fasting in the adjusting of eating habits.


Doctors often prescribe fasting as an antidote to several ailments, and the more you dig scientifically into the benefits of fasting, the more you will find about the way in which the set-up of fasting through the month of Ramadan- the amount of days, the type of fasting- is all astonishingly beneficial.


Along with these tremendous health benefits, there lies an even deeper benefit that is sidelined more often than not. The true gift of fasting is in the spirituality it provides.


What is the spirit of fasting? What is its gift for mankind? What is the true meaning of fasting?


In truth fasting is much more than simply abstaining from food or drink. In fact, it is even much more than the idea of breaking bad habits and creating better ones.


The true meaning, and the true gift, of fasting, is in what it does for you spiritually.


In following routines, it is totally normal and even expected to forget the meaning of the actions that you know intrinsically that you do for a higher purpose or benefit. Things fall into routine and become habit and tradition, they become ritualistic.


The problem with things becoming ritualistic is that we oftentimes forget the meaning of the ritual. And, just like the followers of Prophet Musa (Moses) after a short time of being without his just guidance, following into a ritual is all too natural without reminders.


The gifts of Ramadan and of fasting are more than can be counted realistically- from the opportunity to earn more good deeds, to become closer to God, to cleanse your soul, to break bad habits and form new ones, to reform your spiritual nature, of the opportunity to cleanse yourself of all your sins in order to be promised Jannah (heaven)- the list goes on and on.


Interestingly, one can allocate any time of the year to reform themselves. But we know from common example of human history that this is oftentimes not the case- almost never do we take the stand to focus on our spirituality.


Spirituality is something that breaks and falls apart, that needs constant tending to in order to flourish. The less we tend to our soul’s needs, to our need for connection with God, the harder it becomes to bring oneself onto the path.


So here lies the biggest gift of fasting:


God sets aside a time for us, when He knows that we can’t always set aside time for ourselves.


In His infinite love and mercy, God knows and understands His creation and rather than making us responsible for the shortcomings we are born with, He creates ease upon ease, ease after ease for our difficulties.


Rather than placing us in a situation where we have to make our own routine to force us to find our way, He creates countless ways for us to find our way back to Him- and for us to purify our souls and be reborn in our understanding of faith, of life, of what has become ritual.


The gift of Ramadan, the gift of fasting, is in the way it lovingly forces us to submission to the truth. It brings us face to face with the reality of life, of our base bodily needs. When separated from these needs, we understand our weakness; we understand where we come from.


We understand where we are meant to go.


And what we were created for.


And where we must inevitably return.


God creates a set month for us out of love, to usher us back to the straight path.


Out of His infinite wisdom, He creates routines for us when we are too lost to even consider the fact that we may be losing our way.


So while Ramadan is here, let us all think, take a moment or two to ponder. There are blessings dripping from the air in every moment of this month.


Deeds are being multiplied.


Shaytaan (Satan) is locked up, so we come face to face with our nafs, so we can train it to be a warrior and fight his influences when he is back- not allowing him to win ever again.


We abstain from base needs so we are forced to surrender to our spiritual ones.


We form a relationship with God- so that we remember and make the habit after these 30 days of spirituality- that to God we belong.


And to God we will all return.




The Gift of Fasting

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The Truth About Regret Sun, 30 Apr 2017 06:19:05 +0000 the Existant
The Truth About Regret


The truth about regret is quite opposite to what we expect it to be- it is more than just negative emotion. It is the gateway to the future

The Truth About Regret

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The Truth About Regret



Let me tell you a story of regret.


In a fit of emotion, I have said things that at the time were the epitome of what I was feeling. My words reflected my state of mind right there and then.


I yelled, I became upset, my words flew out of my mouth without filter. It wasn’t until after all had boiled down and I, retreated to my room with anger and frustration, instantly felt another negative emotion, a feeling of dread.


This dread was different from what I initially felt that caused me to be angry. What I felt now, without even thinking about my actions, was regret.


Sounds like a pretty generic story, doesn’t it? Regret plays out when we do or say something, oftentimes completely consciously and in the heat of the moment, and after the fact, sometimes sooner and sometimes later, we regret it.


You see, the truth about regret, is that it plays many parts in our lives. It can come when we least expect it, when we make a decision and are simply so sure that this is the right decision to make. Sometimes, we regret doing something while we are doing it, but outside factors push us toward it.


This is all very theoretical, and there are thousands upon thousands of actual examples that can constitute what regret really is.


Underneath all circumstantial details, there are some truths to the regret that we feel that we must come to terms with, and that we cannot avoid.



  • A moral compass

For one, our regret represents that we actually feel bad for something. It indicates our moral compass is working. We only regret something that we know was wrong. Being able to distinguish right from wrong is the critical root of all regret- and is by far the most positive way of thinking about it as well.


There has to be light to be able to recognize the dark. Regret is the first step to redemption and truth.



  • What we value

Our regret also shines light on what matters to us and what doesn’t. The less we regret something, the less value is in the person we may have wronged or hurt, or the moral misdeed we have engaged in.


Which is to say, to feel little to no regret about wronging oneself is an indicator of a lack of self value- and an important warning sign that one should start caring about themselves. We must learn to value ourselves before we can value anyone else.



  • Unavoidable, constant change

Regret shows change, it shows that we are in a different place than we were way the time of committing an action. Although change is not always a good thing, it is not always a bad thing either.


Regardless of its good or bad, change is inevitable. Regret will happen undoubtedly with change- our values may change, the people who mean something to us may change. We all change as people, and regret is part of the package.



  • Intention matters

For those who feel regretful of actions in the face of God, and the determination of our deeds for entry into heaven or hell in the afterlife- or simply for someone who likes to keep a clean slate and be moral- it is important to remember that intention matters.


People are wired to make mistakes, we are imperfect. If we were perfect, we would never even try to aspire a better world, a better afterlife. WE would work hard for nothing, and that would defeat the purpose of our lives.


In a way, regret and directly from it, our mistakes and negative actiosn keep us humble and remind us of what really matters. We never get too full of ourselves for being good, and we balance our future actions along our regret.


We constantly strive to be better, and our hearts remain clean and constantly striving for good. We cannot have good hearts simple because we do good.

We have good hearts and good intentions, if we can identify the wrong, and strive actively on a daily basis to stay away from our mistakes. How can we ever be better people if we never knew the bitterness of being lesser?



  • Focus on what you CAN change

Another important thing we need to remember to keep us from wallowing in regret- is knowing that nothing can change the past. We can only change what we think of the past- even if sometimes we cant change how we feel about the past.


Because in truth, this is life. Regret is not something that can be avoided, we as human beings are constantly moving forward, and to never feel regret is to never move forward.


So, the next time you feel ultimately regretful for any decision or thought or action- no matter the size of the regrettable deed on the spectrum of small and unimportant to large and life-changing, remember that there is nothing you can do to change it.


Rather than taking our regret in a negative light, we can learn from it. It sounds cliché for sure, but clichés are often rooted in truth.


We can take our regret and examine it all we wish. We can even regret the fact that we feel regret. But in the end, we have to remember that to move forward in life and to be better with each passing day, we are bound to regret some, if not many, of the things that we leave behind.


And rather than allowing regret to be a feeling that keeps you from moving forward, we have to learn to use our regret as a motivator to success, as a means to be better than what we regret. To be better than we once were.


To regret things means that we desire for more than we once were. And rather than simply desiring and moping, we have to take action. Take a look at what you regret, and see just how you can change your future actions to ensure you do not repeat the same mistake again.


Prove to yourself that you are different. Make an effort to not only be different, but to be better. Our every instance of regret is one of those huge billboards shaped in an arrow- showing us the way forward. In a way, it is a shortcut to finding out how to move past the past and into the future that we dream of.


Your dreams can become reality. You just have to examine every aprt of yourself to get there- and the truth about regret is that it is an essential part of the journey to your destination.


The truth about regret, in the end, is that it is essential to life. Regret is not a nice emotion to feel, but the fruits that come from it, the future that takes flight from its seed, is something we could never even hope to attain otherwise.




The Truth About Regret

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This Is How You Are Putting Shackles On Your Own Dreams Tue, 21 Mar 2017 10:00:57 +0000 the Existant
This Is How You Are Putting Shackles On Your Own Dreams

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A story on how my dreams chained themselves

This Is How You Are Putting Shackles On Your Own Dreams

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This Is How You Are Putting Shackles On Your Own Dreams

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I am not here to tell you that your dreams are shackled- that is for you yourself to decide.

Instead, I am going to tell you a story.

My story, actually. Of my own shackles to my own dreams, and how realizing them was the first step forward.


  • My story begins with words.

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You must think I am crazy- words? Don’t all stories begin with words? Aren’t all means of communication just that- words?


Here is a little secret about how words began my life. No, it is not from my first words. It is not the voice of my mother or father, it is


It is the words that I carved out for my dreams. I was a dreamer, I was an achiever. I was a list maker. And in this list-making I sought solace, I sought a plan I could latch my heart onto- a goal. Lists of subgoals and dreams and steps towards my dreams.


Which was nothing of a surprise, I might say. I always saw myself as someone who aims high.


From a very young age, I was an overachieving little mackerel. I always placed my progress and achievement on the highest pedestal, putting anything and everything below just how good I needed to do.


I know not who to blame- my parents for their constant pushing. But who could blame them, I was an impassioned young girl with large dreams and larger talents, and it always seemed like nothing could stop me.


That, is where my dreams began.




  • When I first met the shackles

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One day, I started to compare myself to others, I saw what others were doing and slowly, steadily, I zoomed out of my own achievements. Whatever success I had, no matter what anyone told me or complimented me on, it was nothing to me because I myself felt inadequate, I myself felt like I was not doing enough.


The bar was set almost too high for me too reach, and I knew not how to climb down. But I was laying upside down in an awkward vantage point now, feeling below no matter how high I climbed.


And that, my friends, is how my shackles came into being.


I began to notice a pattern, but I shoved it away as I continued in my downward spiral to nothingness. Nothing made sense to me- nothing even mattered except that I had lost all my potential, all shoved under the sand and washed away on a quiet Sunday ocean tide.


My thoughts would break in twos and threes and I would be sitting on the bathroom floor in the middle of the night with tears in my eyes clutching my mind- of course I wasn’t clutching my mind it was my head. But it sure felt like my mind, with the intensity of thought, the overflow of emotions.


I had dreams, I wanted dreams. Why couldn’t I see them clearly anymore? Why had I given up so early?


It hit me one day- when someone dear to me told me time and time again, that I am my own person. That my achievements are mine, that every person is going through a struggle, that no social media life is real. I knew all these things, I heard this over and over again but it never quite stuck with me until one day I sat down and gave myself The Talk.




  • The Talk

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This exact Talk right here.


I finally figured out what was preventing me from achieving my dreams.


Interestingly, it wasn’t that I did not want to, or that I did not have the motivation.


I actually felt unaccomplished. And at age 21, it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to most.


But being the perfectionist that I was, I had much bigger plans for where I would have liked to been, the goals I would have wanted to reach by now. Knowing I was not there yet was an extreme struggle.


I knew I had my whole life ahead of me, but for some reason this nagging feeling of un-accomplishment prevented me from taking any steps forward.


Rather than motivating me to move forward, it too me two steps backwards.


With the social media raging on with the lives of others, no matter how many times we remind myself that whatever we see of people’s lives on Facebook or Instagram or Snapchat is a lie, a life just waiting to be uncovered.


That smiling couple always posing for picutres? There is a change this portrayal of happiness is all they’ve got.


That girl always hanging out with people looking gorgeous in her selfies? Chances are she is lonely and unhappy, and she gets a high out of the addiction to getting likes to validate her self-worth.




  • The problem?

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Nodding your head in disbelief?


Hear me out.


This is much, much deeper than the simple jealous-factor. Most of us are beyond that.


What the core of the matter is, in truth, is a self-checking mechanism that happens naturally, to ensure we are on the path to our destination.


The problem?


We check ourselves against things that are not just that- ourselves.


Don’t get me wrong, it is important to see how others are fairing to motivate yourself- no doubt.


But what we do subconsciously to shackle our dreams and take them hostage, is to literally take a pair of handcuffs and tie our dreams to what we once thought they would be, and to what others think they will be.


Never mind where we stand today and where others do. We are always taking one step forward, we are always learning, experiencing, growing. Our thoughts themselves are forms of experience that educate us, whether we like it or not.


We are constantly changing. Everyone is always changing in this roller-coaster ride called life, Every aspect of every thing is always changing. Our outlook, our position in the timeline of life and the universe, our relation to others, our mental ideas and moods and God knows what else- everything else.


It is only natural that our dreams change to- and that doesn’t mean dissatisfaction must come along for the ride.




  • The invaluable life lesson

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What I went through may not have included tying my happiness into projecting a fake life. But ir sure did take what I saw of others’ lives, and placed my happiness in the hands of an impossible dream.


I had dreams of greatness, of success, of achievement. Not of fame or money, but of identity, of worth, of purpose, of meaning. I wanted to live a life that meant something for people, I wanted to stand for causes and do things that mattered.


I constantly placed my happiness in this state of never being, looking at what I had not done, what I could have done. Inadvertently, I stamped my future as hopeless.


Even now, I look to my future with uncertainty. But now that I know that my life is not theirs to take, I also firmly believe that there is much more in store for a young 21 year old like me.


My struggle is not different from so many others. But it is worth telling, because it is a struggle that blinds us unless someone is brave enough to call it out when they see it.


I know now that life may not go the way I expected it to go. My achievements may not be exactly what I dreamed them to be. I may not achieve exactly what I charted to achieve. I have achieved, I have taken steps forward. I am not the same person I was before. I am moving forward.




  • Maybe…

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Maybe, what actually reaches for us is what achievement is truly defined by.


Maybe, these dreams cannot be defined by other’s lives- let alone other’s fake lives that are framed to us on silver platters on Facebook and Instagram and Snapchat. I am my own person.


Maybe, our dreams are not what we dream them to be, but what feel like heaven when we reach them.


I am still on the process of figuring it out for myself.


Just write, I tell myself. Keep making those lists. It don’t matter if most, or even all of it is crossed off tomorrow. Even if I cross it all of the very next minute. I am achieving my dreams as I write each and every list because I am moving forward.


Write your experiences, close your eyes and let the stars and pixie dust merge and form ideas and words on a page that will inspire others.


Tell yourself, as I tell myself. I matter, my thoughts are important. My dreams are important, no matter how fleeting, how changing.


My words will one day matter.


My ideas will one day inspire millions.


And so will yours, if you set your mind free of its shackles.




This Is How You Are Putting Shackles On Your Own Dreams

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5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes! Fri, 17 Feb 2017 04:29:00 +0000 the Existant
5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!

5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

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5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

Apologize for your mistakes

Feeling guilty for your mistakes? Don’t know how to put your apology into action? Find out how to GENUINELY apologize for your mistakes!


There are a lot of times- and a lot of reasons- when we find it difficult to apologize for our mistakes. Whether it’s ego, pride, or extreme guilt, we swallow our sorry’s and hope the other person will forgive us without us asking.


The thing is, that unless we apologize, the person whose feelings we hurt or offended is not very likely to know that we were sorry, let alone forgive us instantaneously!


So are you dealing with guilt and know that you need to say sorry, but don’t know how to?


 Here are some genuine ways to apologize to any person for any mistake!


  • Understand the other person’s emotions- put yourself in their shoes!

This might be a no-brainer because in order to even want to read this article you have a substantial amount of understanding to fuel your apology and guilt. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you hurt, understand where they are coming from and how you may have felt in that situation. If you would have felt differently, try to understand it from their perspective. This will help make not only the way you sound when you apologize genuine, but also how you feel as well! Intentions count!



  • Make yourself understand why what you did or said was wrong or hurtful!

This is very strongly connected to the idea of sympathy and empathy. Taking a step back from the other person’s emotions, understand what may have been wrong with what you said or did. Even if there is not much wrong to it, make yourself understand that doing something to hurt another person’s feelings is also immoral! Understanding why something is wrong makes sure you apologize in a genuine way, and brings out your moral insight!



  • Rehearse!

Getting the pre-game jitters! Try rehearsing your emotions and understanding in words that would be helpful. Practice on another friend or family member for good measure! If it is important for your own mental sanity to apologize properly, make sure you have at least one mental rehearsal down to make sure you cover all bases and apologize in a genuine way!



  • Speak from your heart!

If you are truly feeling guilty and remorseful, being genuine and speaking from your heart when you apologize will not be a difficult thing to do! Speak what you feel and show your remorse. Sometimes the pain of the person inflicting pain is worse than the one with the pain- show that you feel what they felt and more! To apologize in a genuine way is to speak from your heart!



  • Be confident and humble

Yes these sound quite paradoxical, but it is true that in apology, confidence and humility go hand in hand. Be confident and genuine- don’t forget the other person’s emotions, but don’t be afraid to speak from your heart. Ironically, guilt is nothing to be ashamed of! Also remember to be humble. You are expressing your guilt, not a success. Know you wronged the other person and use that and keep your head down low.



Us human beings are definitely not perfect, and we make mistakes that are sometimes painful to others, and that directly hurt those around us. Sometimes, even those that we love.



If you truly feel guilty for something you did wrong, following these 5 GENUINE ways to apologize for your mistakes will successfully help you to not only plan and execute your apology, but do it from your heart and come to terms with your guilt as well!



5 GENUINE Ways to Apologize for Your Mistakes!

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