Depression is just one of those things that can seep into a person’s life without them realizing it. Most of the time, it is not too difficult to connect the dots and catch depression early and find ways to treat it- whether clinical help is needed or not.
Despite the fine line between simple sadness and depression, it is crucial to recognize the signs and take care of the issue at the core and understand the implications of the condition.
However, depression that is concealed is an entirely different ball game from straight out depression. People who are high functioning, multi-tasking, hard-working, and even seemingly motivated and passionate in whatever they are doing, tend to have concealed depression.
In concealed depression, a person either intentionally conceals their depression for the sake of focus and completing tasks and productivity, or subconsciously suppress their feelings of depression due to an innate desire to succeed and inherent anxieties about anxiety.
It is important to acknowledge a problem to reach a solution, rather than ignoring it and allowing it to exacerbate out of control. Depression- concealed or not- is no exception.
In all cases across the board, depression is not something that can be taken lightly or ignored. Whether inherently outright or concealed, depression must be taken seriously and proper steps must be taken to ensure that it is taken care of.
Some warning, telltale signs of concealed depression are…
Anxiety about anxiety
A person who conceals their depression, whether deliberately or not, almost always has a subconscious anxiety about having anxiety. Although anxiety and depression are two very different ballparks, the two enmesh when a person’s self-efficacy is marred by worries of one’s own emotions.
A person who is anxious about being anxious, focusing on the anxiety and other emotions they are feeling, will more than likely tend to suppress their depression because of how it feels for them to face the reality of that depression.
Abnormal sleeping and eating habits
It is quite clear that a person who is happy will sleep soundly and easily, and eat properly when hungry. A person who is depressed may eat or sleep more or less- but when there is an abnormal fluctuation between sleep times, amounts, and eating habits- it is through a subconscious anxiety of one’s emotions, and usually is a precursor to suppressing and concealing depression.
Unintentional social withdrawal
A person who is feeling depressed will naturally feel more reluctant to face people. When one is having difficulty facing their own emotions, it becomes increasingly more difficult to face others and interact with them.
Mustering the strength to interact with others, no matter how much of a social butterfly you might be, requires a level-headedness and a degree of peace and happiness.
Depression can prevent one from socially withdrawing. But unintentional social withdrawal almost always can be linked to a concealed depression. This is because the depressed person does not want to face the facts, or does not even realize their own depression at times, and will withdraw due to an inherent feeling that they can’t quite explain.
A person who is dealing with concealed depression will feel more out of place, more ostracized than normal. Naturally, each and every person is unique and different and no two people are exactly alike in every way. In normal everyday interactions, a person who is confident and happy will not have a problem feeling confident in their own selves, and will not feel the need to compare themselves to others.
But when a person is concealing depression, it almost becomes this yardstick of comparison, that a person will feel like everyone is leaving them out, against them, or thinks of them as different. And as good as being unique and different is, concealed depression can lead one to think otherwise- and can lead one to be blinded to the beauties of each individual difference.
Desiring extra love and attention
An extension of feeling ostracized is an extra desire for love and attention. True, all human beings have an innate desire for love and affection.
But for those concealing depression, this desire becomes a stronger need and is manifested in many ways- from feeling ostracized, to when feeling more lonely than usual even at times when alone time is healthy, to feeling like no one loves them.
Subtle cries for help
All person in need of help give out signs that they need that help. Be it that they don’t show up to plans, or that they spend an entire day slouching around unable to do anything, or if they do not do what is asked of them on purpose or because of a lack of motivation to do so- there are always subtle telltale warning signs that points to a person’s concealed depression.
Because whether a person knows they are concealing their depression or not, a person with concealed depression will want help and ask for it, no matter how indirect or subconscious these cries may be.